A Perspective on Fear

When it comes to doing things psychic or otherwise considered “paranormal” or “unordinary,” there’s always a possibility of encountering that essence inside that leaves one crying out “Noooo!”  A lot of people experience this when they are forced with public speaking (not necessarily paranormal, but outside a perceived comfort zone), or also having to address an emotional issue with a partner, etc.  In technical terms, we call it Fear.  And as I eluded to in the latter sentence, it is a form of rallying against going outside your comfort zone.


In this case, fear is not something that is necessarily life threatening, but can be life altering.  In my own personal experience as a medium, the fear can stem from whether or not a decent connection will be made to a person’s loved one on the Other Side, and will the images and impressions be understood by my client?  If carried to the extreme – if the fear were to be real-ized – indeed it could be life altering.  I could get shamed, rejected, and not-so-flattering rumors started that could make me a veritable pariah. 


In a nutshell, this type of fear is directly related to the Ego.  You know, that personal sense of who you think you are.  I have met many psychics and healers who are often troubled by this same fear for the reasons outlined above.


But then, this does make you wonder about faith.  Do you not have faith in your own abilities?  Are you selling yourself short? 


I have been very cautious and slow to open up about my abilities during my progression.   I have been a practicing medium for nearly 19 years, but it has only been in the last 6 or 7 years that I’ve been brave enough to reveal it to a wider audience and try new things in settings that I would typically have NEVER spoke up in (like a courtroom during jury selection). 


I have had several people tell me I have a gift, and if they could do what I can, they would be doing a whole lot more and going a whole lot further with it.  That’s great praise for which I am so humbly thankful for, but that doesn’t necessarily curb the fear and overcome the boundaries of the personal Ego. 


What does all this mean to you as a reader of this blog?  I guess it means that, in these types of cases where we are doing something we consider “out of our comfort zone,” the fear is really pointing to our egos.  That’s it.  And you know what?  We are more than just our egos.  Much, much more.  Our egos oftentimes love to look at what could be the worst-case-scenario (and even bring up past memories to provide a realistic foundation), but never the most positive, which can rob you of that positive potential future.  But the only way we can grow and become All That We Can Be is to occasionally move beyond the comfort zone and grasp that which reveals our sacred sense of our larger beings and to GROW. 


How do you do that?  One way is to give yourself a foundation of positive past results that the ego (or left-brain, if that is where your ego resides) can’t argue with.  I have a list of over 100 validated mediumistic “hits” that left me going “wow,” so whenever I get really nervous, I just pull that out and review them. 


One of my greatest joys is to read about all the science surrounding parapsychology, psi research, and consciousness studies.  Whenever I get ready to do a reading, these days I admit to myself that I am really in a fantastic position to diving in and potentially discovering something about those fields.  In other words, for me to give a reading is an opportunity for me to expand my awareness and consciousness about the functionality and potential purposes and meaning of psi-related phenomenon.  Maybe, in some minute way, I can contribute to this information in the world. 


But in order to really grow, you do have to go beyond yourself.  And that’s the challenge – and it can come with fantastic rewards, but sometimes you don’t know until you get there.      


You don’t have to sell yourself short, just stretch yourself a little bit longer … It can help you, it can help your clients, it can even help strangers.


Remember, you are a perfect being.